do you think I am a "hard faced bitch"????
was recently chatting to a friend..........I won't be revealing who but I said to her you need to relax-don't stress......don't worry so much about others........as in taking their worries on board with yours.......or worry what the effects of there situation/issue/mood may be on you.......
then she said I need to be a "hard faced bitch like you"..........we were laughing so I know she is not SERIOUS or being mean.....
I do listen to friends and keep check they are going ok if things are not so good but I don't think I take those worries on board as I have my own family worries/challenges to deal with.........
so the question of the day is.............
do you take on everyones elses worries and stresses (other friends, aquaintances, extended family etc)
OR
are you a hard faced bitch????
| .........take care til next time.....Chookyblue......... |
38 comments:
Gosh - is there no middle ground??
I am sympathetic/ empathetic to others worries etc and help if I can - and lend a shoulder to dry on - but I don't think I take those issues on as if they were my own...so yep Guess I am hard faced bitch - but like you with a marshmallow heart???
Lol. Now who would have called you that. Lol You have the biggest heart and a great friend that Im am so glad we met. I am also a "hard face bitch" at times but I am gulty of taking things on instead of moving on.
Hahaha.... oh good question.... I think I take on others problems far less now than I used to.... I too am now a hard faced bitch ......
Hugz
Dear Hard Faced Bitch....
I am known as a sucker....LOL...I am the one who tries to help....if it is in my power.....I don't think I worry as such for them, they can do that well enough...I just try and maybe help burden the load....well thats how I see myelf......
Marshmallow, that's me!
lol too busy laughing at Peg's comment Dear hard faced bitch i tend to worry about people and their situations,my kids and hubby all the time tell me to stop worrying,they tell me i need to harden up,maybe you can give me lessons next time we meet,lol.xx
I've learnt to prioritise . .
HFB to my daughter's dog . . .
Door mat to all other beings except any HFB's I might meet.
We love you as you are so caring!
would use that expression my self!! sometimes being private and self contained can be considered that way .. just means you don't GUSH and join in with the showy folks xx rather be that way .. whatever they call me xx just cont being you and it will be fine x
When younger I used to think of myself as everyone's champion... but as you get older I think you mellow. I still love to help but I don't beat myself up if I'm unable to take their problems on my shoulders and solve them.
Cheryll aka Dory aka HFB...lol
I Smile and nod politely, maybe offer some input to the problem, then let it go .... cause they are not at home worrying about my problems ...so I guess I'm a HFB ...lol
I'm a worrier, but it's not that helpful. It takes real strength of character to keep yourself safe from other people's worries or demands. You can only do so much and then you have to look after yourself. I have seen no evidence of you being hard at all. Doing only what you have time and energy for is caring for yourself.
I probably swing both ways....depends who it is and what their problem is. You definitely have a big, sharing heart.
I'm with Cardy girl!
Hey Donna! I think there can definitely be some middle ground in there. Let's face it ... we all have our own concerns and worries ... sucks to be a grown up! We can care about our friends, help when we can, but I don't think it's healthy to take everyone else's worries on. Personally, I think some people watch too many soapies and think real life should be all drama, drama, drama too. :0)So, are you a HFB? Nope, you're YOU and that's fine. :0) Bear Hugs! KRIS
I think that's the last thing I'd call you. Reading your blog over the last year makes me believe you have a heart 10 times bigger than normal and it's surrounded by courage and grace. As I headed over 60 I started to be more of an HFB - mostly worry about my kids now, but fortunately they are in good places in their lives - so that helps. Normally, though, I'm just a bitch - it's a dirty job, but someone has to do it.
Believe me you are not a hard bitch. You lack one essential feature... a face that can sour milk! LOL As for me... I'm a squidgy marshmallow with a tough spot. Need someone to walk over hot coals for you? Give me the heads up and I'll be there. Just give me time to wash the leotard and cape! Hugs....
It is not good to take on someone else's worries and stress...talk about setting yourself up for overload...you can listen with compassion, but at the end of the day you cannot change their circumstance by worrying or stressing for them...so no, I don't take on another persons worry or stress...I have enough to concern myself with in my own life...besides it is not healthy for you physically or relationship wise in my humble opinion...after reading your blog for yrs now I cannot imagine you being a hnb of any kind...
I wouldn't say I'm a HFB, but have been called just the "B"by some. Mostly when not falling under their spell and taking on their worries. No, the biggest problem here is having thin skin. If my bestest friend in the world called me that in jest I'd be a mess forever over it.
p.s. You are CERTAINLY not a qualifier! You couldn't do the things you do if you qualified.
My husband would say I'm a HFB...but my friends would not agree...that's why we have decided to part ways. Truck comes sat!
My brother reckons !I could worry for Australia'...and I've always been the one taking on everyone else's problems I guess. But in more recent years I think I have learned to distance myself from the problems of others...still show empathy but not take their troubles on board. It's about survival and you have learned the lesson a lot younger than me! And no you wouldn't be seen as a HFB , just someone with amazing resilience to live the life you do. Xx
A realist, yes, a hard faced bitch, definitely not!!
So admire you for your strength in the intolerable adversity of the drought and accompanying stock losses and feeding worries.
Love reading your blog and seeing how you are doing.
Cheers from Western Australia.
Ha ha... I think we all need to be a HFB... At least I do need to try that sometimes... I'm such a worrier... And what good does that do to me... NOTHING... But... I have learnt during my last three years of absence in blogland ... That I also do have the rights!! I am.. And therefor .. I am!
And that is such a good feeling...:0))
Being in the Nursing Industry and put up with Crap you need to be Hard Faced Bitch No! But I Could Be! Lol
Nothing wrong with a little worrying for Friends and Family wouldn't be Normal not too.
Working on the Land makes you Hard but Caring you Are Bitch definitely Not xx
Had to read Anni's comment Twice sounds like she's pleased with her Situation lol
:-)
I hope I am something in between..
I try to care for other without giving up everything else. I need my strength to coop with my own worries and i tell myself every day that I am doing just fine..
Dear friends are very special !
Gee...they would be the last words I would use to describe you! Me on the other hand......I am a doctors secretary...some of the grumpiest people around!!
:) - I'm a hard face witch! ;)
I worry. Hate conflicts and confrontations - but sometimes the cup's just full (and you'll hear it). I care - and worry - about and for my friends and dear ones. Only a SFB until I leave the room. ;)
A great friend listens, and is ALWAYS there with a smile. I tend to dwell from time to time, but try not to worry, so I guess IM a HFB too at times.
I always take on the worries of the world and I am a sucker for a sob story but that is just my personality. Usually everything turns out OK but a couple of times I've been hurt by the situation and ended up feeling used. But I'd rather take this risk than ignore someone in need.
I worry about my friends and those dear to me but at the end of the day I have to take care of number one or no one else will....So I must be a Hard Faced Bitch also Chooky......Love ya just the way you are xx
I agree with Cardy!!! You are amazing
Boy that is a bit harsh...where would we all be without what you have done for us in blogging land..we can always lend a sympathetic ear but as adults we shouldn't expect someone to solve our problems for us..so perhaps there is a little of the HFB in all of us..if I ever get into my 'worrier' mode then my husband tells me..you can't change the past so just look to the future.. and so Chooky keep on being the caring generous person that you are
My kids often tell me to stop worrying so much...lol. Now I know what you mean by becoming a Hard Face Bitch after your comment on my blog :) I think we need to make a stand LOL hugs Vicki xxx
Of course I worry about my closest friends and family, but I think I try to help out and or listen. I think I do tend to worry about and take on the worries of immediate family until I help or realise I cannot do anything about it and get on with it. I try to please everybody and keep every body happy....even though I have found out that's impossible. I might get to be a HFB if people keep on doing the same stupid things over and over and never learn.
I'm more like you....from one hard faced bitch to another...we can sympathise with others, hug love and encourage them which I tend to do but not take their baggage home....
Hugs x x x
I used to have trouble accepting everyone's problems. Sometimes I acted like they were my problems. Life is too short and now I only worry / care about people really close to me and who really appreciate my friendship
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